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Bondage
Shibari – which literally means "bondage", is a Japanese way of bondaging erotically. The subservient (the sub) is tied up according to complex patterns, usually with a couple of thin robes. Shibari differs from the Western way of bondaging since the partner isn’t only immobilized but may also enjoy the pressure of the robes which for example press against the breast or genitals. Of course the aesthetic of the person who has been tied up is also important. Japanese bondage is famous for – especially – the usage of asymmetric positions in order to enlarge the psychological effect of the bondage.
History of bondage techniques.
Although some of the techniques of the Japanese sensual bondage have been derived from the Japanese military bondage style, the sexual bondage techniques are much more gently than their military opposite. Much attention is paid to preventing injuries. Many rope artists have based their patterns on the Japanese Shibari style which is sometimes combined with other bondage forms. Shibari is mainly influenced by the Sengoku period in Japan. This period is one of Japan’s darkest periods full of tortures and executions. This period is known for an intense mean torturing way in which the desired information was obtained from the victims in very creative ways with the help of fire, knives, tattoo’s, hot stones, boiled water etc.
According to various sources bondage as a sexual activity is first known in Japan at the end of the Ede period. In general Mr. Ito Seiu is seen as the father of Shibari thanks to his in-dept examination concerning Hojojutsu in1908. He is held responsible for making bondage a real art form. Shibari became popular in the fifties; the art form got attention in various magazines. In the sixties bondage became very popular in Japan as a new form of performance art. More recently the Japanese bondage style has also become popular in the Western BDSM scene.
Traditional Shibari is based on reasonable specific robe patterns; many of the knot patterns have been derived directly from the knots and constructions which are used in Hojojutsu . The Takate Kote and the Ebi forms are important; they have originally been designed to torture human beings, but nowadays they have been designed in such a way that the partner who has been tied up can really enjoy this.
In general the traditional Shibari is done with robes of about 7 meter. The basis material for the robes usually is jute or hemp, which is prepared in such a way that a soft but solid robe is obtained. Cotton bondages are also used a lot. Synthetic robes are less suitable for usage in Shibari bondage since these robes are often too slippery in order to be able to maintain the right shape.
Japanese Bondage
Japanese Bondage: it looks difficult when you watch it for the first time. All those difficult knots to tie up someone... that’s much too hard for me, you’ll probably say. I can assure you the Japanese bondage is rather easy to learn.
This method of bondage is more than it seems; it is a combination the usual effects of bondage, like helplessness and beaty, and a very erotic massage (by the pressure of the ropes and knots) that looks much like acupressure techniques and Japanese massage (Shiatsu). The keyword for Japanese bondage is, like many other aspects of BDSM, subtillity.
The rope
It is best to use a soft and supple rope, about 10 to 12 millimetres. Japanese Bondage is built op in a number of layers because in that way the pressure can be controlled well. That’s why it’s better to use rather short lengths of rope so you can refine the bondage. When the partner had been tied up for a few hours the ropes will probably loosen in particular spots and by using short lengths you don’t have to untie the whole bondage, but just some small parts.
I will explain some kinds of bondage. You can experiment with them and you can combine them with other kinds of bondage.
Shinju (the pearls)
Start winding the first piece of rope around the body of your female partner, just below her breasts (the rope should just touch then and will support them later). Don’t do this tightly but make sure that every winding is just as tight as the other ones. Tie the ends of the rope together on her back; the rope should be just beside (not on) her spine. Wind the next piece of rope around her body in exectiy the same way, but this time above her breasts.
Now take the last piece of rope, fold it in two and insert it under the lower windings until the rope is halfway. Twist it once or twice and make a AV-shape which you hang across the shoulders. Tighten it until the lower windings slightly push up the breasts. Then tie both end to the lower windings. Make sure this knot is also BESIDE the spine.
The erotic pressure comes from the ropes below the breasts and shoulders and from the knots that massage the spine on a very sensitive spot just below the shoulders. The breasts and nipples will slowly feel like they are, pressed on and therefore become more and more sensitive even underneath clothes.
Sukaranbo (the cherry)
For this one you also need three pieces of rope. Take the first piece fold it in two, put it around the waist (again not too tightly), guid the ends between her legs (between the labia and across the clitoris) and tie up everything on the back, beside the spine. You can also add something extra by making a knot on the anus, clitoris or both.
Wind the next rope around the upperleg, just between the bottom. Tie the rope on the outher tight so ir just touches the bottom. Make sure that you have left about 30 cm on one side. You use this part to cross the bottom and to push it up a little. Tie this end to the piece of rope around the waist, exactly in the middle (but beside the spine). Tie the last rope around the other leg in exactly the same way. (The two ends cross each other on the bottom, each with a knot at the end so they make a cherryl). Apart from the direct stimulation of the clitoris and/or anus you desive a thrill from the >cherry= and from massaging the inner thigs and the boundary the leg and the bottom.
Lingerie for Japanese bondage is now available, costum made and completely adaptable. It is a good way to start your bondage-game (it is not really threatening and can be very nice for starting subs) and it can be kep on for hours, don’t be surprised when your sub is VERY disappointed when you take off the ropes again.
Harnesses
Of course there are leather harnesses but why not make one of rope? Like in other forms of Japanes bondage the trick is again the combination of > classical = bondage and erotic stimulation. Make sure you know when to use which harness. Some are good to make someone hang in them and others are NOT. Her is one for delight:
Karada (body)
This is a harness that is not suitable to make someone hang in it. It is based on the characteristics of Shinju and Sakuranbo with something extra. It is meant to > tease- the body and it looks magnificent. If you are exhibitionistic it is a nice way of surprising friends at a party but you can also wear it underneath ordinary clothes.
Start by holding in two about 10m of rope and put it around your partner=s neck. Make a knot on the front of the body, just above the breasts. Make the next knot just below the breasts, one on the navel and one between the navel and the vagina. If you want extra stimulation you can make one right on the clitoris and one on the anus. Set the rope through the legs and to the back of the neck. Now separate the two ends and guide them to the front. Now guide them underneath the ropes. Go back to the back and make a knot on the back, just beside the spine. Guide the ends toth up front again and again underneath the front ropes. Go on this way until you run out of rope. Take a step back and look at and enjoy your partner and your work.
Tip: don’t make your harnesses too tight, otherwise your partner may have breathing problems and perhaps even faint! After this you can continue by tying up her hands, arms, legs and feet. This is nice because she can feel every move over her whole body.
Minimal bondage
One of the aspects of minimal bondage you dont often see is minimal bondage. The trick is to tie up somebody as efficiently as possible with as little rope as possible. Also use thinner rope. Although it is safe the Dom must pay much attention to the pressure of the rope because the risk of pinching off bloodvessels in slightly bigger. The greatest effect if minimal bondage is the frustrating effect. Although hardly any rope is used the effects are enormous; it is impossible to break loose and in most cases it hurts when you move so the sub is forced to lie still. Here are some examples: If you, normally speaking, tic your sub=s wrists at her back, you should try to tie only her thumbs for a change. If you tie her hands and feet, restrict yourself to her thumbs and toes. You can also tie all fingers of both hands to each other, or the thumbs to the toes if you want to force her to kneel (or to spread her legs if she=s on her back).
A nice suggestion is to tie her nippels (this can stay on about 15 to 20 minutes). Then tie her thumbs to the nipples. And another intriguing method is to tie her thumbs to her hair.
Tying her with her back to a free or a pole and only tying up her thumbs behind her back is rather awkward for her because she will miss the support of the rope which is normally present. Tying her with her belly to a tree is even worse, because, to keep her balance, she will be forced to embrace the tree as if it were her partner.
By tying all toes to each other the sub is forced to spread her legs as widely as possible in every position because of which she is always crawl so she is made immobile by only a few small ropes.
You can also tie the toes of each foot to each other, make her put on shoes and make her walk a little (by tying her toes together hardly any feeling of balance is left).
If the fingers of each hand are tied to each other it is much harder to perform certain domestic dutries. It is even more fun to make her eat something in this way.
If you are looking for a different kind of nipple-clip try this. Put the nipple between two wooden sticks and tie the sticks together at both ends (it’s easier to use elastic bands).
A-symmetrical bondage
Another one of the subtler techniques of Japanese bondage is the use of a-symmetrical bondage. You’ll be surprised at what this form of bondage does to your sub. The idea behind a-symmetrical bondage is that the mind and the body have problems with adapting to non-symmetrial matters. Because your body is a-symmetrical whole, it is rather >natural=to handle a >normal= bondage. Both mind and body expect both arms or both legs to be treated in the same way. In other words: when you walk, one foot is in front of your body and the other foot is behind your body. Most movements of your hands and feet (but also of you ears and eyes) are a kind of al and my shadow. By applying a-symmetrical techniques the normal routine is broken and the sub is forced, by a number of reasons, to concentrate on the bondage; the impact of being tied up is thus much greater.
For example, when you tie your sub=s right wrist to her left foot, her mind is confused and she will automatically lose all control of her left and right-coordination. If she now wants to move her right leg she is forced to concentrate on the question which is her right leg (you don’t even have to blindfold her; it’s already hard enough without).
When she is tied up in this way she is only able to crawl. You will notice that even crawling is very hard and she will probably trip over her own legs.
Another example: tie a rope around her waist and tie the other end to one of her feet in such a way that it is possible for her to stretch her leg, but not fully. Just the feeling that she is able to stretch her one leg fully but her other just not fully will be very frustrating (certainly the longer run). And then I’m not even talking about her effents to walk graciously.
Example number three: a variation on the spread-eagle. Tie her to the bed, spread-eagled, like you normally do. The only difference is that, instead of tying both her legs to the bed, you fold on leg and tie it that way. Now she is able to move the folded leg (and, to a certain extent, her body), but she is not free and not able to close her legs, even though one leg can be >moved=. When you now tie one hand behind her back and the other one above her head (here it is an additional advantage that it is an even more degrading position), she will feel much more tied up than when both her hands are tied behind her back.
A-symmetrical bondage (as you may see now) will probably offer many more opportunities to tease your sub in both a physical and a mental way.
A few safety tips:
Before you start take notice of a few important matters:
- If you have to untie your partner rapidly, compare the value of the rope to the value of your partner. I suppose you already know the results... take a pair of bondagescissors and cut the rope! Also be careful when winding rope around a links; the pinching-off effects gets bigger when you apply more windings. What is > nice and tight= at the beginning becomes > much too tight- after a few more windings.
- Bondage is a game for two, so keep communicating!!!
- Make sure your partner can easily give a stop-sign if necessary.
- Take on the account your bondaged partner endurance. (N.B. bondage-photo=s from SM-magazines are pictures of the moment; take a quick snap and then the sub is immediately untied).
- Check your bondaged partner continuously!!
For you know sometimes, because of her emotions, your bondaged partner can’t properly judge whether the rope is pinching off.
For more information:
- As you will find out Japanese bondage is much fun, but you must realize that you have to be careful with applying it. The ropes themselves are not dangerous, but the risk lies in applying them in the wrong way. Therefore we, as suppliers, can never be hold responsible, in anyway, for any damage done to your partner.
For more information concerning the many bondaging facets we would like to refer to the following sites (thanks to Jack for the finding them…)
- We recommend this site for very good instructions (in French). Despite of the fact that it is a French site, the photos are so clear that nothing can go wrong. http://www.encordees.com/pas_menu.html
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